14. David Salvato | Becoming Whole: A Journey Through Faith, Shame, and Self-Acceptance

In this deeply moving episode of In the Blink podcast,, Meagan reconnects with her longtime friend David to share a powerful and vulnerable conversation about identity, faith, childhood trauma, and the long road to healing. David opens up about being bullied from a young age, growing up gay in a religious family, and navigating the complexities of faith, shame, and self-acceptance. Through candid stories of resilience, spiritual awakening, and self-guided therapy, he reminds us of the power of choosing healing, reclaiming your truth, and embracing who you are. Tune in for a heartfelt journey of struggle, strength, and ultimately, hope.

“There's hope for all of us and for any trauma that anybody has been through, whether small or big or multiple, and to not give up and to seek out help if you need help. And because there are so many resources today, so many resources.”- David

Key Takeaways:

• Bullying Leaves Deep, Lasting Wounds: David experienced persistent bullying from early childhood through college, which contributed to long-term trauma, repression, and shame—especially around his identity and sexuality.

• Faith and Spirituality Can Coexist with Queerness: Despite the Church’s institutional stance, David found personal salvation and strength in his faith, distinguishing between the institutional failings of the Catholic Church and the healing nature of personal spirituality.

• Healing Is Nonlinear and Self-Driven: David embarked on a 25-year self-healing journey using tools like prayer, meditation, internal family systems (IFS), and self-education via books and online resources—largely without consistent help from traditional therapy.

• Family Acceptance Isn't Guaranteed, But Chosen Family Can Heal: Rejection from his biological family was deeply painful, but friendships and surrogate families offered the love and support that helped him survive and thrive.

• Self-Awareness and Rewiring Are Key to Growth: Through mindfulness and introspection, David confronted his inner child, reframed traumatic memories, and actively worked to rewire negative mental patterns formed from years of shame and suppression.

• Telling One’s Story in Safe Spaces Is Inherently Healing: Sharing his story with a trusted friend allowed David to feel seen and affirmed—showcasing how empathetic listening and connection can be powerful tools for healing. About David Salvato:
  

  David Salvato holds a Bachelor's Degree in Communications with a Minor in Spanish from the University of San Diego, where he also completed a semester abroad at St. Clare's, Oxford. He further pursued studies at the University of St. Thomas Aquinas in Rome, Italy, earning degrees in Philosophy, Theology, and a Doctorate in Canon Law. Fluent in English and Italian, with a working knowledge of Spanish, David enjoys a diverse range of interests including learning, nutrition, exercise, psychology, gardening, and exploring new cultures through travel. An aficionado of wine and food, he is deeply rooted in his Catholic faith and holds hopes for a happy, prosperous, and healthy world.
  

  
  
  
  

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